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Breakup Advice

September 24, 2009
By Anonymous

After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.

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on Mar. 15 2011 at 7:01 pm
teacat749 BRONZE, Whitefish Bay, Wisconsin
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Favorite Quote:
We do not quit playing because we grow old. We grow old because we quit playing.
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

I agree. Love is but an irritating human emotion that causes one to do things that they regret for the rest of their lives. 'Tis unnecessary. It's degrading and self-depricating.

...Yes, I know, I'm bitter. 


ilyguys said...
on Mar. 15 2011 at 9:22 am
lack of word choice and puncuation

on Mar. 7 2011 at 12:50 pm
whittles BRONZE, Delmar, Delaware
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Favorite Quote:
"A word is dead, when its said, but i say it just begins to live that day."-by; Emily Dickinson

wow :D really? *giggles* i always got over everyone but my first actual boyfriend....... but every guys seems to be better lol :D after him :D *giggles again*

you will eventally get over him :D so find yourself a new one :D

on Mar. 3 2011 at 9:32 pm
BobTheSpiderTurtle BRONZE, Las Vegas, Nevada
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Favorite Quote:
"I'm not suffering form insanity, I'm enjoying every minute of it!"

You're welcome

Lyllith SILVER said...
on Mar. 3 2011 at 7:48 pm
Lyllith SILVER, Austin, Texas
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Thank you.

on Mar. 3 2011 at 7:41 pm
BobTheSpiderTurtle BRONZE, Las Vegas, Nevada
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Favorite Quote:
"I'm not suffering form insanity, I'm enjoying every minute of it!"

Then you make sure you live your life to the absolute fullest so full it's overflowing with happiness, love, and laughter because then you have lived enough for the both of you and that person would love you for honoring their memory that way and would be glad that you didnt waste your life longing for a love that was so far out of your grasp.

badboss123 said...
on Feb. 28 2011 at 6:45 am
omg girl i feel oyu i have been hoding on to this boy name walter for the last 18 months and i cant still get over him i think about him every night.... 

susi09 said...
on Feb. 21 2011 at 8:38 pm
i can relate, ive been holdin on to this guy, my second boyfriend but my first love for , for a year after we broke up. i cant find someone whos more amazing then him. is hard to move on wen i keep thinking about the great times i have spend with him. <|3 i dont know if i will ever  especially if he still tell me he likes me while having a girlfriend >.<

Blackwing said...
on Feb. 16 2011 at 4:17 pm
Blackwing, Manassas, Virginia
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Favorite Quote:
Humans are born , then they die. Thus, is it not better not being born at all? You have to ask yourself, what you can acomplish in this short amount of time.

hmm. Love is nothing but bothersome. you like someone, ye you hate it. You hate thinking about them. You can't stop thinking of them for 1 sec and you hate it. It's botehrsome.

on Feb. 9 2011 at 10:42 am
manda_the_random_poet PLATINUM, Elfrida, Arizona
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trust me i know how you feel i been on the same thing for three years with this one not to great..and it just sucks getting told by everyone else that there never a chance..but thanks for the article..glad to know im not the only one that holds on for longer than a month..

Lyllith SILVER said...
on Feb. 8 2011 at 6:36 pm
Lyllith SILVER, Austin, Texas
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What if someone you're still in love with dies? What do you do then?

on Feb. 8 2011 at 5:18 pm
Skylersmith1997 BRONZE, Gales Ferry, Connecticut
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Thanks for the advice man, will do!

lilskunk67 said...
on Feb. 8 2011 at 12:07 pm
This is so true.. Its hard for me to realize my relationship that i have been in for 5 years...we have cheated on eachother alot but now he is in jail and wants to work thing out ...i want to move on and be happy with him but i  not sure ...

Abbey said...
on Feb. 8 2011 at 10:16 am
I can relate too. I've been hung up on a guy for two years as well. He graduated two years ago, and I have been stuck in the same small town at the same small high school ever since. I will definitely take this advice into consideration.

on Feb. 1 2011 at 7:49 pm
KyleGarbacz GOLD, Wilmington, Delaware
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This is so true. I just went threw this myself. I went out with my recent ex for 3 months. I kept hoping that we would stop having bad moments and more good ones cuz the good ones we had together were amazing. She was always smiling and laughing, but as time went on it just got worse. We broke up over a month ago and I have a new girlfriend that is so much better. We connect on a whole different level and I am just a happier person altogether now. The advice TO JUST FORGET is perfect. You HAVE to find someone that is better for you and will make you happy as you make them. Else life with that person will just be miserable. This article is so true.

on Jan. 22 2011 at 11:05 pm
xX_so-confused_Xx PLATINUM, Renton, Washington
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Beautiful. Simply Beautiful

Liv Rose said...
on Jan. 11 2011 at 4:59 pm
Liv Rose, Butler, Pennsylvania
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great advice. i broke up with my bf for cheating and right after i met this guy who just made me forget about my ex because i had so much fun with him, you just got have fun and ur sorrrows will go away

kat1 said...
on Jan. 2 2011 at 5:42 pm
I totally agree with you. But not on the whole forgetting thing. It's never easy to let go of the one you love. And if it was indeed true love then you would never forget about them... that love for that person would always be there.

on Jan. 1 2011 at 6:52 pm
PoetLaureate07 PLATINUM, Aberdeen, Mississippi
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Favorite Quote:
To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing..

i agree with everything except the forgetting part... if you forget, then u dont remember who you loved or who you shared those memories with.... love is the greatest risk, but the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.

I was in love with this one guy that i was with for 2 years and 9 months. he broke up with me for another chick, and i still love him.. there's no doubt n my mind about that.. it's been approx. 3 years since all that happened, and im not ashamed of still having feelings for him. he's got 4 kids (and only 22) and each time one is born, i wish it was me, yes, but im just happy for him bc he's happy. if u really love someone you only want them to be happy in life... even if it's not with you... i'm happy for him bc he's happy.. i love his kids like they are mine and that's all one can do wn things like this happen.

on Dec. 26 2010 at 9:32 pm
COURTneyyy27 SILVER, Boise, Idaho
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I absolutely love this, and even though some people don't agree with it, I most certainly do. I was in love with a guy for multiple years, in an on-again-off-again relationship with him, when he totally decided he wasn't going to commit to me anymore. He broke my heart, but I hung on. But you were right to say that the best thing is to overwrite the memories...I was afraid to fall for anyone else because I was still hanging onto HIM, but another guy came along. I guess you could say he's my rebound...but the point is, I love this new guy 10 times more than I EVER loved the other one. He is my true love, and everytime I see his smile, I "trip and fall" after him :)

So, yes, as you said, "with time, everything is mendable." Thanks for writing this :)