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Breakup Advice

September 24, 2009
By Anonymous

After those amazing relationships end, you have to ask yourself how things will continue. If you broke up with your partner, you must either be unhappy with them, mad at them, tired of them, or some other circumstance. So, if it is you who breaks up with the other, stop and think. As one single person, you don't have any idea what the other might go through. One moment to you is completely different that that of another. For example, you might go on a date and have the time of your life, oblivious to that fact that the one you care for is about to slit their wrists in boredom.
Just and example.
But that is something that you can relate to a breakup. You might think that things are better off without the other. They might be tripping and falling behind you, trying to catch up and get you back. It happens a lot, and these breakups are the worst. I myself went through one. And I've scraped my knees so much over these past to years tripping and falling after her(yes, two years. She's so beautiful I can't stop thinking about her). I've found out the the first and most important thing you can do to stay out of those horrible, bad break ups, is to forget. Easier said then done, right? Well, there is only one way to completely get over such a thing. Overwrite the memories that the two of you shared. Now, people call this a rebound, but isn't every boyfriend/girlfriend after the first a rebound? You must make better memories with this person. Have a greater time, and think about the new things you share rather then all the things you used to share with the other. Take it from me, with time, almost everything is mendable.


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halez96 SILVER said...
on Apr. 8 2010 at 4:01 pm
halez96 SILVER, North Augusta, South Carolina
7 articles 0 photos 8 comments

Favorite Quote:
"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return." -Moulin Rouge

I am in love with the boy who treats me the worst in the world. He's played me plenty of times, and at some point, I always forget about him and date someone new. He always ruins it. Now I've found another boy, and I'm scared to like him, because I don't want Caleb to ruin it. I'm learning that he treats me terrible, and my best option would be to give up on the ugly loser. But I can't put my whole heart in it.

on Apr. 7 2010 at 1:38 am
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

Oh! I'm sorry hon. I think we were done anyway. But really, sorry to bother you!

on Apr. 6 2010 at 7:57 pm
Lucrecia SILVER, Phoenix, Arizona
6 articles 0 photos 12 comments

Favorite Quote:
"No act of love is ever wasted". Geneen Roth

"Love not what you are, but what you may become". Miguel de Cervantes

This is so true, and no matter how cheesy it sounds time does heal wounds, but it always feels like forever

on Apr. 6 2010 at 7:14 pm
WritingLoverForever PLATINUM, Bowling Green, Ohio
32 articles 2 photos 198 comments

Favorite Quote:
It's not about success; it's about significance.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

It's been over a year since my first love broke up with me while we were slow-dancing. We were going out for exactly a year when he did it. My heart shattered into a million pieces, and I'm still picking those pieces up. I went out with three other guys since then, but none of them lasted long or meant anywhere near as much as my first boyfriend. But my current boyfriend, my fourth boyfriend since my first love, who I've been going out with for seven months now--my second longest relationship--has really helped heal my heart from that breakup and he's made me even happier than my first love made me. I still am completely in love with that boy and I still miss him terribly, but it gives me peace to know that I can be strong and be just as happy with someone else.

on Apr. 6 2010 at 4:42 pm
MissNikita BRONZE, Robbinston, Maine
2 articles 24 photos 7 comments

Favorite Quote:
"i want to live as close to edge as i can...out on the edge you can see so much more than from the center". Kurt Cobain

It's rediculous how true this is.  My boyfriend of 2 years broke up about 6 months ago.  for the past 3 month, i've been dating my current boyfriend.  By putting in more effort, having more fun, making new and better memories, my ex has slowly moved to back of my mind and heart.  Sometimes i get random flashbacks but that just make me want to grow more as a person and experience more as a partner.  This whole relationship business is all about learnig anyway.  Very insightful.  Not the happiest thought to think about (having to rewrite memories with new lovers to erase old ones) but it really is the only way to heal a broken heart

lowlaa BRONZE said...
on Apr. 6 2010 at 4:26 pm
lowlaa BRONZE, Barrie, Other
3 articles 6 photos 26 comments

Favorite Quote:
Yes, yes I did steal my mom's watch and she was very TICKED off when it was broken. HAHAHA- Good Time #201

Hey Guys!

It's great you two are getting along well but I fogot to un-check the "Alert me when someone replies to my post" so I have gotten an e-mail every single time you have written a comment off of my comment!! It's just a little crazy when my inbox fills with emails saying you two wrote something! Pretty please make a new comment to have a conversation in, thank you! :)


on Apr. 6 2010 at 1:42 pm
Pudd1016 SILVER, Wilmington, Delaware
8 articles 0 photos 5 comments

Favorite Quote:
'Love is a perfect bond of Union."

recently, my 5 month bf broke up with me over a long conversation over text. I think he may have pretended to be his mom, and thats why i was so mad afterward i think. But you just have to learn to get over it, it will get better in the end.

JeghedderKaj said...
on Apr. 6 2010 at 3:55 am
I like it a lot.

on Apr. 3 2010 at 6:05 pm
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

My name is Tiphanny...it's spelled different than the other "Tiffany's" =)

on Apr. 2 2010 at 4:52 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

so what's your name?

on Apr. 2 2010 at 10:41 am
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

all right...l

on Mar. 29 2010 at 11:19 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

Um, the picture should be me in a coat standing by a friend in the cold haha. its from me on a ski trip a few years ago. I'm not very friendly with a camera, but i'll try to get some more pictures on my fb.

Emeline:) said...
on Mar. 29 2010 at 6:23 pm
So Truee , No Matter What The'll Have A Place In Your Heart. But You Just Gotta Choosee how big that place will bee. and making new meriores help you cover the old one. i argee 100% :)

on Mar. 29 2010 at 4:41 pm
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

yeah...and how exactly am I supposed to know which one you are...if I've never seen your face!!!??? lol jeez this is becoming so complicated...even though it shouldn't be... =)

on Mar. 29 2010 at 1:39 pm
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

Oh!!! well i didn't know what you meant...I thought about the story but i didn't think it was YOU!!! lol wow, well thx <3

-JohnnyDeppLover123


on Mar. 28 2010 at 11:02 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

i told you that i wrote a story about him. His name is sam oltman (a.k.a, ME haha)

on Mar. 28 2010 at 11:01 pm
White_Shadow BRONZE, Putnam, Illinois
2 articles 0 photos 110 comments

Favorite Quote:
"A life without cause is a life without effect." - Unknown

Pathetic, no, but why do you keep taking him back? and why do you break up continuously?

on Mar. 28 2010 at 4:07 pm
allieboo233 BRONZE, Roanoke Tx, Texas
3 articles 0 photos 4 comments

Favorite Quote:
"dance like theres nobody watching"

okay so ive been dating this guy since june but weve broken up sooo much..am i pathetic for always talking him back?

on Mar. 27 2010 at 11:25 am
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

actually may I ask what the name is??? because I have no idea... lol =)

on Mar. 27 2010 at 11:22 am
JohnnyDeppLover123 DIAMOND, Holyoke, Massachusetts
54 articles 0 photos 146 comments

Favorite Quote:
Be not afraid of greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
William Shakespeare

 yes i do have one!!! =) alright...