"As soon as he turned his head back, I will rush up and hug him."
"As soon as she calls out to me, I'll definitely turn around."------From the movie I Miss You
Loving mutually is too hard. I once heard the idea that "it's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to stay in love." I used to disdain this saying, thinking that it must not be difficult for two people who truly love each other to fall in love and stay in love forever. Now it dawned on me that the disappearing of purity is inevitable. Human beings are the most complex creatures, with the most complex behaviors and emotions, in the most complex societies, and we can't think about it with naivety.
Two people can't be that perfect and suitable for each other after all. They have different families, different upbringings, different social circles and different values. Love can initially defeat everything, but as more and more time passes, conflicts will inevitably arise between the two. Whether it is the subjective or objective contradictions, whether it is the contradictions which due to the behavior that arise each others’ dissatisfaction or due to the love and career life and parents and other external circumstances, will become little devils buried in the bottom of the heart, waiting for the outbreak of the time. Little devils will give birth to children devils, one after another. If both people ignore these little devils at first, little devils will return by the hundreds at some point. At that moment, when they look at each other with the lack of understanding and resentment that has built up in their hearts, those unresolved contradictions become grudges, a fish in their throats, so that the words can no longer say out. The sadness is so, yet there is no escape. The sadness is so, yet there is no escape.
Even if the two people fairly live in the harmony, and did not receive that much interference from the outside world, it must be admitted that the true heart is ever-changing, and no one can ensure its heart can remain unchanged for a lifetime. "A good wife does not need ten thousand taels of gold. You only need to treat her as the initial heart." "initial heart",  which is consist of two simple words but something that is difficult to reach. There are always people who say, "You don't treat me like you did in the beginning." Why dwell on it? It's a given. When two people first get together, they always think they are so lucky to be with each other. one from can only look at the love from afar, can only use words to test the other, can only feel jealous with no status to suddenly became the rightful lover of the other, always hold in the hand for fear of falling, keep in the mouth for fear of melting. it remembers the unspeakable pain of before night after night, dare not forget to be good to her at all times. But with the passing of the freshness, when we have long been accustomed to each other's existence, when we forget the beginning of those heartfelt feelings, "initial heart" two words become hard to reach.
At the end of the film I Miss You, heroine's father making a point: "Love and life are essentially the same. If you live in love and love each other in living, it will last." I always desire the sweetness of the first half of the film when the hero and heroine just get together. The man is on an incline and the woman gets out of a taxi at the bottom of the incline, drunkenly saying that 'husband, hug." The man walks towards her, and their faces seem still to feel farther apart even when they're pressed together. But can a scene like this really last a lifetime? If we take love too seriously, dwelling on the other person's every action and constantly trying to figure out whether the love is true or false, not only will we end up living in pain, but we will also put a lot of pressure on the other one. Attaching love to excessive importance is a thought that most people will once have. Some people successfully pass this stage, figure out how to maintain a long relationship, while some people can only be stuck in this stage of constant pain. It is important to us to figure out that people are independent individuals, and life is in their own hands. Love and our lover are just a part of life, no matter how it important.
So when starting a relationship, can you be sure that you can see that you guys will definitely go well for the rest of your life？