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The One

October 13, 2010
By Ari-hime BRONZE, Dover, Delaware
Ari-hime BRONZE, Dover, Delaware
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Favorite Quote:
"Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back."-Arthur Rubinstein


I've heard these two words applied to so many people. With each of my friends, they say that they've found "the one."
What exactly does that mean?
As I began to think more and more about it, I realized that I have absolutely no clue what that means. Is "the one" that boy who knows you better than anyone just because he's known you longer than anyone? Or is "the one" that strange boy on your bus that flirts with and offends you in turns? I know that so many of my friends would tell me that "the one" is that person you could never be without. You meet them, and you instantly think "This is the person I'll be with forever."
I don't know if I believe that. Hearing somebody say that they've found "the one" makes me think of so many songs and overly-dramatic shows where the person thinks they've found that one person that they're meant to be with forever, only to discover that "the one" wasn't who they thought they were. Is heartbreak as much a part of finding "the one" as it is a part of life?
What do you think?


The author's comments:
I actually thought about this for a very, very long time. It's a question that's bugged me ever since my best friend called her boyfriend "the one."

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on Oct. 20 2010 at 7:17 am
singingdetective SILVER, Sugar Land, Texas
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Favorite Quote:
&quot;Out of a world of laughter, <br /> suddenly I am sad.<br /> Day and night, it haunts me,<br /> the kiss I never had&quot;<br /> --Midsummer by Syndey King Russell<br /> <br /> &quot;Chances lost are hope&#039;s torn up pages&quot;-- &quot;Chances&quot; by Five for Fighting

It's really hard to know who is "the one" for us when we're in high school.

Personally, I believe that there are multiple "ones" (each complementing the best aspects in your personality and each with different dimensions that interest you). The difference is the way you interact with them. You have to chose which one you prefer to interact with, what do you value THE MOST? Humor, chemistry, intelligent conversations? If there's one persont that fits ALL the things you value, well, then you're just lucky. Otherwise,  you have to chose one out of many...

Also, I don't like calling anyone "the one" for me, because I don't know for sure until I try out many other people (hence why I date so many guys and my friends think I'm crazy to go through heartbreak time after time). But I love relatinoships and the people I'm with because of the memories I have with them, and my friends just don't understand. But I digress.

People should keep dating to get a wide range of options of who they can realistically continue their life with. Good luck, everyone, lol. :)


Jyblu BRONZE said...
on Oct. 19 2010 at 10:26 pm
Jyblu BRONZE, Torrance, California
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Truthfully, I do not believe that a person can find "the one" on their first relationship because there are so many other people in the world just lying in wait for that chosen one. A blunt way to put it is that a person needs to go through trail and error until he or she finally ends up with a perfect mate. There may be other people who disagree with me but I think this is the correct way of finding "the one". Correct me if I'm wrong please!

VaB.lina said...
on Oct. 19 2010 at 5:32 pm
VaB.lina, Mechanicsville, Virginia
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Favorite Quote:
- &quot;We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.&quot;<br /> - &quot;Shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you will land among the stars.&quot;

I agree with this.  I don't think that you ever just instantly think that you have found "the one".  I think that all things take time, even if that amount of time is shorter than some, it still does take time.  I have been basically been best friends with this guy forever, but that doesn't mean he is "the one", just because I have known him forever, and I don't think that people are able to find "the one" quickly.  Now that I think of it, im not a fan of those two words, how would you ever know if they were "the one".  Things change. :)